Neither Here Nor There: Perspectives on Identity by the Young Eritrean and Ethiopian Diaspora in America

December 15, 2009

A Father Braiding Daughter’s Hair A Labor Of Love

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In a recent post I discussed the negative feedback the Jolie-Pitts were getting about how they were taking care of Zahara’s hair.  Here is an email sent to me about someone else who seems to be doing a good job (All words and pictures are from the email). 🙂
 


Originally from Ethiopia , Miriam Tigist Green, 4, was adopted by Emory professor Clifton Green and his wife in 2005. This is her hair unbraided, before her father applies his weekly loving touch. His care and attention to detail show mastery of a task few white men ever contemplate.  Dad Clifton and mom Jennifer initially were uncertain what to do with Miriam’s hair after bringing her home.  

    

   They considered just letting it go, as a sign of freedom. They wanted others to accept her, regardless of her looks.  The couple believed that Miriam’s hair was a strong link to her African roots, so they ultimately chose to neaten it the way they saw in many African-American families.

 

  

 

 Here, Brother Nathaniel tries to get in on the braiding action.  Clifton Green researched the best products to keep Miriam’s hair from drying and breaking. He noticed and copied styles he saw on other kids. With practice, he became skilled. “I had learned to braid rope necklaces in junior high,” he says. “But this is hair, not string.”

At one point, Clifton Green stopped trying new styles on Miriam before church, because haste led to bad hairdos. “We wanted her to know her hair isn’t a burden, but something really wonderful, something beautiful to be celebrated,” her mother says.

  

 In learning how to take care of Miriam’s hair, the Greens learned that what was at stake was far more than hygiene or looks. Her hair was a litmus test of their parenting.  

  

   

Here, half an hour into the braiding process, Miriam lets out a yawn.  “By and large, most whites are oblivious to the cultural minefield young black girls are born into, just by virtue of having hair that doesn’t bounce and behave,” one journalist wrote last year.

 

 

 

This is the drawer in the Greens’ living room that holds all the tools Dad uses to care for Miriam’s hair.

 

   

 

  Miriam had short, patchy hair when Green snapped this photo of her in an Ethiopian orphanage in March 2005.   


 Hair like Miriam’s takes a lot of time and the process of caring for it is also a way for father and daughter to bond. When Clifton Green was little, his own father “made me feel like I had hung the moon,” he says. That’s what Green has always wanted to give his kids.



 

It’s a little gift he gives her, the little joy of feeling nice and getting good vibes from other people,” Green’s wife, Jennifer, says.

Now there’s a MAN!  White, Black, Green, or Orange , the time and dedications speaks volumes as does all the hair!!!

 

 

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10 Comments »

  1. Awesome job dad. There are few black men that can complete the task of combing his daughters hair. I Mr. Green you show true dedication and love to Miriam by accepting, glorifying and conquering the hair God gave her.

    Comment by Jennifer — June 1, 2010 @ 9:16 am | Reply

  2. I first saw your story on CNN. I loved it so much I wanted to know more, so I IGoogled your name.
    For you and your wife to research and take the time to learn how to style and take care of your daughters hair is truly loving. I enjoyed the picture of Nathaniel getting in on the act.

    God bless you all

    Comment by Anne — August 5, 2010 @ 1:17 pm | Reply

  3. Another interview from this wonderful family: http://www.flaimahmy.com/2010/02/18/t-clifton-green-professor-and-fly-daddy/

    Comment by Habesha Diaspora — August 24, 2010 @ 12:20 pm | Reply

  4. This is too sweet. And her hair looks good!

    Comment by nogoblogs — January 18, 2011 @ 10:55 pm | Reply

  5. Daddy you are doing an excellent job on your daughters hair!!!

    Comment by Deidre — December 14, 2011 @ 11:56 am | Reply

  6. wow, wow! Bravo to the father. You did an amazing job.

    Comment by snow — March 11, 2012 @ 6:54 pm | Reply

  7. This is such a wonderful story. Dad discovered a great time to bond with his daughter Nd instill in her that she is beautiful

    Comment by Abailey1990@hotmIl.com — July 4, 2012 @ 2:09 pm | Reply

  8. Is there any much more of the ? Thanks anyway for the info!
    What about a platt or even a fish tail braid ?
    Thanks for performing this 🙂 Take it easy

    Comment by braid — August 28, 2012 @ 6:43 pm | Reply

  9. Beautiful

    Comment by Shaun cox — September 24, 2012 @ 4:41 pm | Reply

  10. I am a listenener/student of Michelle Perry Harris and Clifton Green was central to her example of instilling self esteem and cementing the confidence of a little black girl that if Daddy loves me I will always be beautiful. Thank you Clifton Green. Thank you Professor Perry.

    Comment by Reggie — January 1, 2013 @ 11:24 am | Reply


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